A woman who says she mas turbated during childbirth as a form of pain relief is encouraging other pregnant women to consider doing the same.
In a blog post entitled ‘Why I touched myself in labour’, 30-year-old Australian Angela Gallo explains why she thinks it’s such a good idea and lists three reasons other mums should do it, too.
According to Angela, not only does it ‘feel good’, it’s also a natural form of pain relief and she feels it is natural as ‘that’s how baby went in’.
Below is her blog post and her advice in full. What do you think? Let us know in the comments, by emailing yourmirror@or on our Mirror Mums Facebook page.
“Yes, you heard me right. And don’t be so shocked. Birth and se x operate in almost the exact same ways.
“The hormones, sensations, the anatomy involved, brain activity, receptors…they are all so heavily intertwined.
“Our vu lvas swell, blood flow is increased, we moan, sway our hips, deep breathing, sweat – we drop into a seriously sacred intimate space.
“ Heck, women around the world are experiencing orgasmic childbirth. I wanted to make sure I had a piece of that pie!
“AND YET IT STILL BOGGLES PEOPLE’S MINDS WHEN I LET THEM IN ON MY (NOT-SO DIRTY) LITTLE SECRET.”
“Birth brings out the animal in me; and it is a feeling I shamelessly indulge. It can only be described as a lioness coming out of her cave – sexy, strong, capable, warm.
“My second baby’s birth was remarkably more empowering then then my first. Firstly, I labored in the comfort of our home, with the people I love most.
“Secondly, because of the privacy, support, and love I felt wrapped in, my surges felt COMPLETELY different. They were intense, yes. But the wildness of them felt…electric. Sensual. Powerful.
“I remember one moment very vividly. As I neared transition (9-10 cm), I felt incredibly fragile, hopeless, and overwhelmed. (Transition can be such a fickle b***h!)
“Mas turbation made the MOST sense to me as I labored through my surges. I remember my husband saying, ‘Would you like to have se x?’ And although I couldn’t commit to se x in the moment, he must have read my mind!
“Clit oral stimulation worked an absolute TREAT. It shifted my focus to my va gina, to the energy brewing within me. It made me feel connected, and made me feel like I had some control over what I was feeling.
“The surges were much more manageable, and the rest between them was so much more enjoyable. If I close my eyes now, I am taken back to that place.
“The hot water on my back, my husband’s hands locked in mine, the safety of his presence, the happiness as I rode those wild waves.
“Orgas mic in a se xual way – no. Pleasure – YES. It was my glorious instinctual pain-relief system coming to life! I am so proud of myself for exploring an avenue so typically shamed.”
ANGELA’S 3 REASONS WOMEN SHOULD CONSIDER MASTURBATION DURING CHILDBIRTH
1. ‘WHAT GETS THE BABY IN, GETS THE BABY OUT!’
Oxytocin, baby. With a side of Endorphin and Adrenaline. (In all the right amounts, too!) Ina May was not kidding when she coined that term. Ni pple, va ginal, clitoral stimulation, kissing, intimacy, affection; these all inspire the flow of our hormonal allies in birth. Experiencing a ‘stalled’ or lengthy labor? Need a natural pick me up? Touch yourself, mama! It gets the good stuff flowing.
2. PAIN RELIEF
Ever had a headache, or been hung-over, or couldn’t sleep; and you instinctively decided on a mini-masturbation sesh? And then voila – headache magically gone? Well – many of us do it. And that’s because it works. So why would it be any different to using clitoral stimulation in during/between contractions? In 1988, a man by the name of Komisaruk published a study in the Journal of Se x Research, that explored the idea that when ‘women stimulated their vaginas or clitori, they became less sensitive to painful stimulation’.
3. IT FEELS GOOD
Mood boost, anyone? Want to feel more relaxed? You know that dopey, satisfied, tired feeling you can after an orgasm…that’s it right there. You may feel tense, anxious, stressed, unable to rest, mind racing – bring it back to basics with some deliciously luscious clitoral love.