1. OPEN THE DOOR FOR HER
Yes, I realize this is a long-honored and commonly recognized act of respect. However, you might be surprised at just how overlooked this simple gesture has become. As a relationship progresses and you become more comfortable with a person, it’s easy to let little things like this slip. But trust us, your stepping ahead of her to open the door, rather than walking in first and simply holding the door behind you, will remind her that you really do respect her and want to make her feel special.
2. PICK UP THE TAB
No matter how independent a girl is, this old-school tradition is always greatly appreciated. I’m not saying that you should always be expected to pay throughout the course of a relationship, but picking up the check – whether she offers to split it or not – will remind a girl that, not only can you take care of her, but you’re financially stable, which can be hard to come by these days. “I’m super attracted to men who never offer to pay for dinner and can barely afford to buy me a drink at the bar” said no girl, ever.
3. OFFER TO DRIVE
4. BE AWARE OF HER ACTIONS AND FEELINGS IN PUBLIC
While this should go without saying, sometimes, especially after two people have become comfortable with one another, it might be too easy to put her feelings on the back burner. Don’t let yourself become lazy and think that, just because you’ve established yourselves as a couple, all romance and consideration go out the window. The reality is, we notice more than you probably realize. If you’re sitting with a group of friends and your girl gets stuck on the end bar stool next to a creepy guy, switch seats with her without making it a big deal. She will be grateful that you’ve picked up on her discomfort and made an effort to make her happy.
5. REMIND HER THAT YOU FEEL LUCKY TO HAVE HER
As ugly as it is, jealousy is a real emotion that many people feel at some point in a relationship. Whether you and your girlfriend have always struggled with jealousy issues, or you’re dating the coolest, most laid-back girl ever, being conscious of this reality will help make for a more honest relationship. If you’re at a party and have struck up a great conversation with another girl, a simple gesture, like putting your arm around your girlfriend’s waist when she walks up to join you, goes an incredibly long way.
6. DO CHORES WITHOUT BEING ASKED
Even if you don’t live together, but you spend time at your girlfriend’s house, simple chores to help out around her place will definitely not go unnoticed. Next time you go to toss something in the trash and it’s full, take it out when you leave. Notice that she has a light out that needs changing? Make use of that tall height of yours and do it for her. Though she’s fully capable of doing little things around the house herself, it speaks volumes that you care enough to help her out from time to time.
7. MAKE PLANS AND FOLLOW THROUGH
This should be common sense, though plans fall through the cracks all the time. If you mention doing something with a girl, actually make it happen. The prospect of seeing you again will excite her, so don’t get her hopes up or put her in the position of always being the one to coordinate your plans together.
Hopefully, after having read this, you’re not thinking that we’re telling you to take on every traditional, manly role there is. But, what we are saying, is that some of these time-honored acts of respect have stood the test of many a relationship, and for good reason. We’re lucky enough to live in an age where women are equals, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t expect to be treated like ladies. After all, think back to some of our most primal instincts. Knowing that a man can take care of me, protect me, and make me feel safe is something I’ll always admire and look for in a guy.