Genevieve Magazine reached out to Betty Irabor, Chioma ‘Chigul’ and Linda Ikeji for their thoughts on the pressure women face to get married before the age of 30.
Here is what they had to say….
“Marriage is not an achievement. There is so much more to life than being someone’s wife. Get married please, but don’t be pressured into it. I don’t know how many of you single girls are under pressure to get married but I am. Pressure from family, friends and people who just can’t mind their business.
The pressure is so intense right now I feel like going to husband market – if there is any such thing- to buy myself some breathing space. Give me a break you people.
“In my opinion, the pressure is not a fabrication. It is very real ! After you have won asoebi about a million times, you begin to wonder when it is going to be your turn to sell asoebi too ! And when you factor in mums and aunties constantly reminding you about the shelf life of women. It gets to you, even if it is just a bit.
People may even suggest some very strange things to you to do to ‘earn’ marriage. Well, I have come to realise that we allow ourselves to be pressured. The decision to get married should not be taken because you are being pressured, that could lead to a disaster. Don’t let anyone make you go into anything you are not ready for or your joy may be shortlived. And to those mounting pressure on others to go and get married, there is simply no justification for your behaviour
“I don’t think women should be worried about being married before 30 because many women before that age have not yet gone through the school of life which prepares them for marriage”
Genevieve Magazine also reached out to me, spiritually.
The pressure is real. I feign excuses to leave the room when I find myself with my parents. MARRIAGE TALK! I can’t even discuss what is happening in my life with friends cos they always find a way to chip, “Ehen, do you have a boyfriend now?” My enemies online nko? ‘Don’t better go and marry.” “This babe you never steal marry?” As if the husband is growing in a tree in my backyard.