In an interview with Rollingout.com, the newly married singer, 44, discussed the pitfalls of rushing into a marriage based on infatuation and lust.
“We get caught up in someone’s looks, or their money, but not the person. Or, we’re into someone for a couple of months and then the novelty fades and we’re on to the next. Love is bigger than just the emotion for the moment. Love requires patience. It requires communication. It requires and demands mutual respect and understanding.
In this quick-paced world, we want immediate gratification. Our idea of love and having that is great, but the immediate gratification of having it all is what most people are after in this microwavable world. That’s what makes it such a challenge. We have to change our mentality if we want relationships that will last.”
Jill who divorced in 2007 after 6 years of marriage told Essence.com that any man who wants her hand in marriage has to pass her 6 month test.
“If you make it over the six month hump, you have done something. I must really like you,” she said.