Do you know that majority of women who find it difficult to get married and those who get married but after a short time they are sent away by their husband are ladies who think of themselves as beautiful?
They feel too big and even pretend to be what they are not. It’s complicated! Read this exposé…
Have you heard women complain about that there are no serious men to marry these days? According to these women, who are often in their late 20s and 30s, men just want to date – not to settle down.
But these ladies fail to understand is that real men are very particular when it comes to choosing someone for a serious relationship that could possibly lead to marriage.
A woman can be beautiful, intelligent and ambitious, but all these good virtues can be nullified by one or two negative traits. The following are some of the traits affecting such ladies:
1) The ‘Socialite mentality’
The ‘socialite mentality’ is a disease that seems to have afflicted most 20-something year old ladies. Signs of this malady are manifested by sudden realization that they are the ‘hottest’ in their area.
The infected wear skimpy clothes, and capture their ‘amazing’ outfits on android phone and proceed to post these pictures on social media for attention.
Ladies, if you want to capture attention and earn the respect of people, go the Lupita Nyon’go way. Explore your talents, develop your ideas and work relentlessly until you break a record. Then the men leading equally successful lives will come for you and have you for keeps.
Any responsible man holds his family with highest regard. He will go out of his way to create time for his parents and take very good care of them at all cost. Before considering a lady for a serious relationship, a man will first try to ascertain her view towards family.
If she disrespects her parents, lives oblivious of her siblings and talk down on people then she is considered anti-family. In the guy’s mind the lady will make a poor wife..just play with her and move on.
There is also a crop of ladies who are so close to their fathers/mothers yet raise ruckus whenever the guy wants to spend some quality time with his family, especially his mother. Trying to compete with a guy’s mother for his attention is a crazy idea.
3) Lack of ambition
If you wish to have a guy consider you for marriage, then you should at least get focused with your life. Get your priorities straight, have ambitions, work towards achieving your goals and take your studies or job seriously. If all your ‘future plans’ happen to be on where the next coolest party is then don’t expect any guy to take you seriously.
Practice moderation, striving to be responsible and industrious. Every man wants the assurance that the lady he is getting hitched to is hardworking so she can effectively run things when he’s not around.
4) Extreme materialism
Since the days of the cave men, women only mate with those who can provide and protect their families. However, it’s totally wrong to stick with a guy just because he can afford to sustain your expensive lifestyle only to disappear when his cash flow recedes.
It’s easy to spot a gold-digger. All she wants to do is hang out in fancy places, buy new cloths, shoes, phones, etc., etc. When you are together, you never get to have any meaningful conversations.
Once a guy realizes you are for his possessions, he re-strategizes. You become his trophy girlfriend. He may buy you a nice dress and shoe, maybe phone, but it ends at that. You can’t be a wife.
5) False sense of importance
Such a lady has a bloated ego and false sense of importance. She thinks she is doing a guy a favor by being with him. He is, therefore, expected to be grateful that he should provide whenever she asks.
Guys, please it’s rather draining to date a lady who is convinced you were sorely created to serve her. She will expect you to drop all your plans and run to her side whenever she wants. Since she believes that she can get any man on the planet, whenever you fight she is inclined to issue ultimatums.
A guy who wants to settle down with a lady that will bring peace into his life should go for someone who is humble. She should be able to associate well with you, whether you spend on her that day on not.
When a lady is selfish a real man will know; she doesn’t care how much you earn and how much you have to work to earn that money. All she’s concerned about is buy this for me, buy that for me. Such a lady can never be a good wife. Even if she’s dating a married man he will soon run away from her.
Ladies, over to you. Live right if you want the right man to take you serious and keep you as a wife.
– Written by Mark Maina