When John swept into my life, I was a teenage mom, and I saw him as a godly man who worked hard and made good choices. I could tell he loved God and cared for people. I looked up to him with respect.

Then came marriage . . .

It wasn’t that I stopped respecting John, but I saw more of his flaws. I also had more expectations. As the years passed, I was quick to point out John’s faults instead of his strengths.

We’ve had tough spots in our marriage. . . and I’ve learned that the harder I work to show my husband respect, the closer we become.

I don’t show my husband respect to manipulate. Instead, I respect my husband because I love him. And I know that the more I care for him in ways he feels respected, the more love is returned.

Here are the 27 ways:

  1. Ask about his job. Listen to his joys and struggles at work. Thank him for working so hard for your family.
  2. Invite some of his co-workers over for lunch. Get to know some of the people with whom your husband spends his day.
  3. Attend company gatherings with him.
  4. Ask your spouse about his dreams. What would he like to do? Where would he like to travel?
  5. Offer to run an errand for your husband.
  6. Send him encouraging texts throughout the day
  7. Talk positively about him to others.
  8. Don’t interrupt him.
  9. Give him time to think. Don’t expect an instant answer.
  10. Talk over your family schedule with him.
  11. Work as a team to guide and discipline your kids. Keep a “team front” in front of your kids, and talk to your husband in private if you disagree.
  12. Pray for him.
  13. Give him time to wind down after work.
  14. Understand He approaches God and worships God in different ways than you do.
  15. Thank him for all the ways he serves God.
  16. Pray out loud for your husband.
  17. If you need his help with something, ask him clearly. Don’t beat around the bush, hint, or try to manipulate.
  18. Ask for ideas for your dinner menu. Make the kind of food he likes.
  19. When you go to the store, ask him if there is anything that you could pick up for him.
  20. Praise him for accomplishments.
  21. Attempt to keep your home in order, for his comfort.
  22. Dress modestly so you don’t draw the attention of other men.
  23. Hold his hand in public.
  24. Snuggle up to him when he’s watching a movie.
  25. Sit and watch him as he’s working on a project in the garage or shopping cart. Let him know you just enjoy being with him.
  26. Ask for his advice.
  27. Join him on an adventure of his choosing!
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Culled from: forthefamily.org

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