Single women over thirty are falling victims of one of the oldest scams ever: any man is better than no man. And so we find intelligent, beautiful, professional women dating, marrying, shacking up with or becoming pregnant for total losers.
I’ve seen it happen to a number of my single girl friends, and I’m still amazed at how easily they give up on themselves to embrace this malicious philosophy. Society bombards women with the message: “there’s something terribly wrong with you, that’s why you’re still single.” And a lot of women, unable to cope with the loneliness, lower their standards and embrace men who specialize in preying on the insecure.
These men hang around like stray dogs and drop a few disgusting words that have no impact on a confident woman, but are a treasure for the one who just found out that yet another one of her girlfriends got engaged, while she sits at home alone watching reruns of pointless, outdated sitcoms.
Pay attention to this:
You are a wonderful woman. Never doubt that because as soon as you start believing that there’s something wrong with you, and that the train (or bus or boat or whatever other transportation) is leaving you behind, and that you’re going to become a childless old maid, you’re going to start acting the part.
Your thoughts control your decisions and hence your life. If you believe that you are unworthy of a good man because you’re too old, you’ll make choices that reflect that train of thought. And losers are going to swarm all over you like flieson honey. There’s nothing wrong with praying for a man.
A lot of women are willing to get set up on blind dates with people they barely know, yet they think it’s an awful act of desperation to get down on their knees and ask God for a good man. Let me tell you this; if anybody should be choosing your life partner it should be the One who created him in the first place. And while you’re praying, be specific and realistic.
Focus much more on character than on looks, ’cause those fade away, and nobody wants to be stuck with an ugly man with a bad attitude. There’s nothing wrong with asking your friends (the ones with common sense) to introduce you to worthwhile single men they know. You’ll never know where that can lead. Accept that you’re lonely and would like to have serious male companionship.
Denial leads a lot of women down the wrong road. Playing as if you’re fine is hardly ever a good idea when in reality you are so lonely you cry yourself to sleep at night. Make peace with your desires, understand where they are coming from; that way you’ll be better able to handle your emotions and make better choices. Enjoy your company.
While you wait for Mr. Right-For-Me to show up, work on self-improvement. Read good books, get enough exercise, eat properly, pamper yourself, improve your vocabulary, and take that trip you always dreamed of. Don’t just sit around and brood, moan, and complain.
Also, take a sober look at the inside and dig out the bad habits, the flaws of character, the unforgiveness, and anything else that holds you back. Singleness is not a curse. Don’t ever be fooled into thinking that you should grab, and be grateful for, just any man. You are too valuable for that
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